I am very aware of sex and sexual people. I have never responded. Sex and intimacy are crucial for sustaining a marriage in good shape and the effects of lack of sex Couple dont have married sex why marriage can wreak havoc on a relationship. Perhaps I could have made a more consistent effort to be affectionate and caring and open, but we were stuck in a cycle; she would be critical of so much of what I did and the criticisms would make me withdrawn. Coping with a marriage lacking in intimacy looks like a plant trying to cope without water.